Bailey Gardner’s wedding was scheduled to be on May 23, the same day her and Andrew Lehman started dating three years prior.
Recently, the couple made the decision to postpone their wedding until October.
The reason wasn’t cold feet — it’s the coronavirus.
“We have some high risk family members, like immediate family members, that weren’t going to be able to come to the wedding, and it was really important for us to have all of our family there,” Gardner said.
Brides are now having to come up with creative ways to have their weddings, or else change their plans altogether due to the coronavirus.
The decision wasn’t easy for Gardner and Lehman, especially since they’ve been planning the wedding for so long.
“I just, like, wanted a normal wedding day and now it’s totally ruined,” she said.
Gardner said they had talked about having a small ceremony on their original date and then just moving their reception; however, since they have immediate family who live out of state who wouldn’t be able to attend either way, they chose to postpone it completely.
“I was like, ‘well, what’s even the point?’” she said. “I don’t want to Zoom our wedding ceremony.”
Luckily, their wedding venue gave them additional dates to choose from, and their vendors made the switch easy for the couple.
“We picked one out that we thought would work best and then talked to all our main vendors and made sure they had availability, and they all did, and so they just kind of all switched everything over in our contracts,” she said. “There isn’t any extra costs or anything, which is nice.”
Now, she’s back to waiting for the day she says “I do.”
“We’re back to a point where we can’t do anything until we get closer, so now it’s just sitting and waiting again for more mountains to pass,” Gardner said.
Another bride, Ashley Willis, has her wedding date set for May 22, and plans to still have the ceremony then.
“We’re gonna split it and do a ceremony on May 22, and then a reception probably on August 14,” Willis said.
Willis and her fiance’, David Petersen, have come up with a creative way to have more than 10 people attend their ceremony.
“We’re gonna do like a drive-in wedding, where people can come and just be in their cars,” Willis said.
Their plan is to get the ceremony on a radio frequency so guests can hear it from inside their cars.
Willis said she went through the stages of grief, especially denial, but has finally reached acceptance.
“It was really hard to make the decision to split it because now I’m not going to have the wedding day that I was daydreaming of and picturing,” she said, “but at the end of the day, I just want to get married.”
Both brides had to accept the reality that these changes because of the coronavirus were out of their control, but are staying positive in the midst of it.
“The idea that everything was going to go the way I wanted it to and now it’s not was probably the hardest thing to get over, but we’re getting there,” Gardner said.